The nuclear family: the pros and cons
Bright room, a large table, behind which the whole family gathers. Grandfather puts a samovar, grandmother begins to pour tea. First husband, then eldest son, youngest son, daughter in law, grandchildren. Children's twitter, men's conversations, smiles and restrained laughter - who wouldn't want to go for such tea-drinking? Once it was commonplace, but the nuclear family changed everything. Unlike the patriarchal, it is, firstly, small, secondly, it is limited in emotional experience, and thirdly, it gives freedom and solitude. And although the above picture can cause affection for many, few will want to live in such a large family. Let us think about why most people of the 20th and 21st centuries build nuclear families? The foundations of the patriarchal house were the traditions and the pursuit of them. The sister-in-law, coming to the house of her husband's family, had to obey her mother-in-law and established customs. It demanded from her humility, attentiveness, diligence, readiness to carry out any order of the senior.Now there were no her personal problems, but they were common. Well, when the mother-in-law was a woman affectionate and understanding. And if not? Life could turn into hell, but with the same probability it was possible to find well-being. Staying in such a family meant the exclusion of private, personal life. At the same time, invaluable life experience was passed down from generation to generation, children learned obedience, helped the elderly. All of the above does not exhaust the description of the traditional family, but gives an understanding of the contradictory nature of its influence on the individual. On the one hand, collectivism is forming, on the other hand, there is no place for any individualism.
This type of family dominates in modern society and represents a maximum of two generations of people bound by kinship. The small nuclear family consists of spouses, and the larger also includes children. Often the relationships in it are built on a democratic basis. It gives you the opportunity to build your personal home space without regard to existing regulations. But these statistics inexorably testify to the lesser strength of such a cell of society.The number of divorces is growing every decade. Moreover, many people living together do not register their relationship. Public opinion becomes secondary, the main thing is personal comfort. Self-sacrifice and humility are less and less common in relations between spouses, close and distant relatives. It is easier to send grandparents to a nursing home than to take care of them. Young children are raised by kindergartens, not by the older generation. Thus, the nuclear family has become a reflection of the processes of individualization and liberalization taking place in our society. It also destroys state traditions.
Most psychologists and sociologists agree that there is no way back to the patriarchal, traditional family. In modern society, the nuclear family will dominate. This is due to the unwillingness of the younger generation to humble and obey. In the case of living on the same living space of several families, conflicts, quarrels and even criminal offenses increase. The society of individualists supports in its members the desire for independence.It distresses the fate of children, who, in fact, remain without proper care and attention.